My husband and I frequently use the phrase "when our kids are gone from the house, we will have to...". With three young children in the house, it seems almost impossible to realize some of our dreams. I think that this is one of the reasons that married couples can fall into a rut (I know that we do). How would your relationship change if you could actually make some of your dreams come true today or in the near future? I recently had a friend tell me that she and her husband found a babysitter and started going on a date night once a week and that it had completely changed their relationship. For some couples, a weekly date night might be a small "dream", but for some of you, making this happen could be a dream come true! What are some of the dreams that you have for your marriage?
Week #7: Create a couple's bucket list.
During your spouse time, talk about things that you want to accomplish as a couple or dreams for your marriage. Write them down and create your own couple's bucket list. Leave this as an open ended list and add things as you think of them. Put your list somewhere that you will see it and refer to it often. If you see your list, you are more likely to do the things on the list.
The purpose of this bucket list is to get doing. This list won't help your relationship unless you accomplish the things that you have written down. Set a realistic goal of how often you want to complete the things on your list. If you have simple things on your list, like a weekly date night, you might be able to accomplish it right away. If your goal is a big trip, it might have to wait a year or several years till your kids are older or until you can save enough money.
You might be surprised what your spouse wants to do. This is a great way to open up lines of communication and to share your dreams and aspirations with your spouse.
If you are having problems getting started, here are a few ideas:
- Get dressed up and take a limo to a fancy/expensive restaurant
- Go on a spontaneous road trip and see where you end up
- Read through the Bible together
- Travel to _______
- Spend an entire day in bed
- Complete a devotional together
- Build your dream house
- Remodel your house (or a room in your house)
- Have a weekly date night
- Go skydiving
- Stay up all night and watch the sunrise
- Take dance lessons
- Retire by age ____ and _____________ (i.e. travel)
- Go scuba diving/snorkeling
- Have a picnic on the beach
- Run a race together
- Take a cooking class
- Make a new meal/dessert together and have a romantic dinner for two
- Go for a motorcycle ride
- Ride in a helicopter
- Read a book together
- Make love on a/in a/aboard a __________________
- Sing a karaoke duet
- Horseback ride
- Get a couple's massage
- Create a CD/play list of your favorite songs
What are some of the things on your couple's bucket list?
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